Today's newsletter covers the idea of personal leadership. Many people only think of leadership in terms of directing others, but today, I give you the four components of leading yourself along with personal examples.

Good morning! Updates and news for the week.

I continue to find new uses for AI as a writer, speaker, and all-around content creator. This week, I used it to GREATLY reduce the time required to fill out applications for speaking jobs.

I also used it to help me streamline the pitching process for a few podcasts. I don't think I did anything fancy, but it has been a great time-saving measure. Now that my tech set-up is back online, this week I'll try it out as a video script creator.

When I reopen the AI Content Creation Accelerator program, I'm thinking of making it a low-cost membership (think $20-30 monthly) where I continually send examples of use cases and strategic templates/prompts and do twice-monthly workshops/Q&A.

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Personal Leadership: Conquer Yourself to Conquer the World

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People don’t randomly choose who to follow.

Successful leaders have traits that enable them to polarize group energy and direct it toward an objective. The ability to do this isn’t a matter of right or wrong. It's amoral power.

Remember: both Gandhi and Hitler were effective leaders. The only difference was the core values they operated from.

"Who then is a leader? There have been countless people throughout history who led people but were inhumane and destructive. Does that still make them leaders? In my mind, a leader does more than just lead people. They have to be driven by the right motivation and make a positive impact on the people around them."

-Jacob Morgan, Creator of thefutureoraganization.com​

Great leaders have used their power for good and evil. But before they conquered the world, they had to conquer themselves and develop a leadership philosophy to lead those around them.

Without a leadership philosophy, you'll never be able to lead others. Without a leadership philosophy, you’ll never be able to lead yourself, either.

I always tell people that they should read books on leadership, even if they don't hold a leadership role or have ambitions of holding one in the future.

It doesn't matter if you're a student, employee, or gig worker. You need to learn to develop leadership skills, which means you’ll need to develop a leadership philosophy.

This is because you must be good at leading yourself through the world.

You may never be the manager of a team or a general in command of a force, but you will always be the CEO of your life and the captain of your destiny.

You're responsible for your actions.

You're either punished or rewarded by the quality of your decision-making. You must avoid disaster while maximizing your time and energy returns.

All of this requires a leadership approach to the choices you make. This is the tactical application of the strategic principles developed in your leadership philosophy.

If you want to succeed, applying those leadership principles to your life gives you the self-control to commit to actions that will pay off years later.

What is a leadership philosophy?

A leadership philosophy is a structured approach to leading others. It explains what will be done, how to do it, its guiding principles, and the expected behavior while doing it. The structure can vary depending on the leader's needs, the type of leader he is, and the personality of the team members he's leading.

In this post, I explore my leadership philosophy, how I developed it, and how it can help you become the leader of your life.

While my leadership philosophy is personal, I believe that everyone can benefit from it. Even if you don't agree with all of the guiding principles I've laid out here, you can still use this to develop your approach to choices, distractions, and challenges.

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Direction

It’s not enough to have a goal. You also need something that you’re running away from.

You simultaneously need something you're running towards and something that you're trying to escape.

This is no different than a general leading his forces away from a position of danger to one where they hold the advantage. Avoidance of a problem works in tandem with seeking a solution. When these approaches are combined, the results are beyond impressive.

When I was an alcoholic with little money and even less self-respect, I wanted to be better. I started to run in the direction of a better life. I made the decision to go back to school and stop drinking, but I did this because I was tired of where I was in life. I was running away from failure as much as I was running towards success.

I was tired of being broke, having no prospects for the future, and not being respected. There was a lot of pain in my life due to being a grown man who was only worth 10 dollars an hour (before tax) and who spent that money excessively drinking away his problems. This was my pain point. This is what I was running away from.

I wanted to be respected and admired. I wanted to be clean and healthy. I wanted to earn money and accomplish something of note in my life. This is what I was running towards.

Responsibility

The leader who won't take responsibility won't be the leader for very long.

To lead yourself is to control yourself, and this can only be accomplished when you blame no one but yourself.

As a leader, you must always take responsibility. Even if it isn’t your fault. In fact, those are the times when it's even more important for you to take responsibility. When leading yourself, never blame anything for your situation but yourself.

I used to do private tutoring and teaching in physics and mathematics. Whenever my students did well and wanted to thank me for helping them improve their grades or grasp a subject, I always told them:

“Your successes are yours. Your failures are mine.”

Although physics is a math-heavy discipline (in fact, all physics majors get a minor in mathematics by default), I was a terrible math student. I used to blame my school or home life, but what good did it do me? I was still bad at math, and it affected what I could do with my life. Once I stopped finding things to blame and making excuses, I could get to work at improving my mediocre math skills.

I did the same thing with my alcoholism. I blamed genetics, my background, and my personality. Even though they all affected my drinking habits, I could not lead myself out of the problems my relationship with alcohol was creating. I had to stop placing blame and instead focus on solving the problem. This meant taking responsibility.

Honesty

Honesty is difficult for people.

Not only does it force them to face their problems, but it also forces them to make a decision.

Honest living removes all excuses. It forces you to decide if you really want to fix the problem or if you’re just paying lip service to the sexy idea of "self-improvement."

It was challenging to admit to myself that I was a porn and alcohol addict, but it wasn’t until I identified the problems that I could do something about them. I had to admit to myself that I was nothing with no prospects for the future. I had to look at myself in the mirror and accept that I'd become a loser.

It wasn’t just about admitting what I was. I also had to admit to myself what I wanted. Once I was honest with myself, I could lead myself. I refused to live my life with “sour grapes syndrome.”

Sour grapes syndrome comes from an old tale. In that story, a fox is walking along in the forest when he spots a juicy bunch of grapes hanging from a branch. He leaps upward and tries to snatch the fruit between his teeth but misses. He tries a second time and misses again. After a third miss, he gives up and slinks away, muttering, “They’re probably sour anyway.”

Many people respond this way. Rather than face their shortcomings, they twist them to become their preferences. Rather than work on being more, they learn to accept being less. This is a lie that steals ambition and devours potential. I had many problems, but I was not willing to lie to myself.

I accepted what I was and who I wanted to become. Then, I got to work leading myself through the transition from the former to the latter.

Decisiveness

Good leaders understand that it's better to be proactive than reactive.

Nothing worthwhile in your life simply happens. It requires you to make a decision and then support that decision with disciplined action.

This may seem obvious, but many people live like they’re just going to wake up to their dream life one day. Or they’re waiting for their big break or some grand adventure. The next thing you know, they’re 35 with no accomplishments and no stories other than the latest *insert latest Netflix series here* they just binge-watched.

I make a small chunk of change each month from my books and programs, but I had to decide to sit down every day and work on them. I’m in decent physical shape, but I had to decide to eat well and train.

I don’t know your specific talents, hobbies, or interests. I don’t know anything about your goals or aspirations. What I know is that without a conscious decision followed by definitive action, you won’t get anything out of life besides what’s leftover–and that’s usually not that great.

If you don’t take ownership of yourself and what you want, someone else will, and their decision almost certainly won’t be in your favor.

This passivity is how people spend their entire lives in dead-end jobs and relationships. The person who takes control will make decisions based on what’s best for themselves–not for the person they're making decisions for.

Don't you want to take a leap of faith? Or become an old man, filled with regret, waiting to die alone!

-Saito, "Inception"

You don’t make decisions because you’re afraid of intent.

Somewhere along the course of your life, you got the idea that it was better to hope for a specific outcome rather than try to manifest it. This is because when you aim for a specific outcome, there’s always a chance you won’t get it.

Maybe some good things did happen without you trying, but it’s much more likely that good things will happen if you try to make them happen.

Recap of the four principles of leadership philosophy

1. Direction
2. Responsibility
3. Honesty
4. Decisiveness

It doesn't matter what your core values and motivations are. These four principles are the bedrock of any personal leadership philosophy.